Are Others Holding You Down?

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

Take a good look at whom you consider your closest friends and family members, and to your co-workers and spouse.

Who are they?

What are they like?

What are their goals and aspirations?

Are they motivated and ambitious?

Are they positive people? Are they negative?

The people that you closely associate yourself with are the anchor-points for your self. These are the people that you share experiences with, people that influence how you percieve your life's experiences, and ultimately create a large portion of your reality.


While you are more heavily influenced by the five people you are closest to, the list does not stop at five. There is a cognitive limitation of 150 personalities, give or take, that your human brain can handle. Notice I said personalites, not persons. This list of 150 includes fictional characters, celebrities, and even brands of a product.

What does this mean for you?

This means that you need to be very picky about whom you choose to spend your time with. You need to be actively managing your inputs for information.

My previous circle of friends did nothing but play videogames, eat junk, and complain about their lives. Their ambitions were not much more than reaching the next prestige level in Call of Duty.

If the people you are spending time with prioritize leveling up their Destiny character, it's time to cut the cord. They are deadweight to you, and can only hold you back.